And some people never feel guilty. They don't take any responsibility when something happens to them, they tend to blame others, always saying "it's not my fault, it's the fault of... I don't know... the economy, it's the weather". I had worked with a cameraman who was supposed to shoot videos with me and he had arrived several hours late. And he had told me: "But it's not my fault, there were traffic jams".
I said to myself: "Yes, but yes, it's your fault, because there are always traffic jams here and it's up to you to adapt, it's up to you to make sure you're on time. And if you arrive so late, it's because you didn't organize yourself well. So it's clearly your fault". But there are people like that who don't take any responsibility.
I tend to take a lot of responsibility, I tend to take total responsibility. There's a book on the subject called... It's in English. I think it means "taking responsibility in an extreme way". In English, it's Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink, who is a Navy Seal, so elite units of the American army, I'm not an expert, but in any case I appreciated this book in its overall message, that is to say taking responsibility.
I'm not saying that I liked the whole book, because I'm not a fan and supporter of this really extremely puritanical mentality that says "you always have to suffer" and I find the character too netherlands whatsapp number data extreme, the author eh, Jocko Willink, too extreme. And I don't like extremes in general.
On the other hand, this book taught me that it is always in one's interest to take great responsibility. And that's what I was already doing naturally and this book helped me to do it even more. So I really tend to take responsibility in situations, I tend to be very very hard on myself. I am almost a tyrant with myself. I would never dare to treat others as I treat myself, I would never dare to be as demanding with others as I am with myself. I am much more demanding with myself than I am with others. I tend to be demanding with others, but I am even more demanding with myself.
And when you take extreme responsibility like that, when you take responsibility for things even when it's not your fault, well it has several virtuous effects, positive effects, namely you learn a lot, you grow, because the one who says "it's not my fault", well he doesn't learn anything, he doesn't develop, he stagnates.
The person I was telling you about earlier, who tells me "it's not my fault if I'm several hours late, it's because of the traffic jams", he will be late for the rest of his life, because since he didn't take responsibility, well he doesn't progress, he doesn't move forward. Whereas someone who makes the mistake once, who says "OK, I'm late, I'm sorry, I didn't organize myself well", well the next time, he will do everything to not be late again.